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+title: How to Make Big Decisions
+permalink: decision
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+description: Illustration by Michael Beepath
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+
+Most people don’t really make big decisions. 
+They just delay them.
+
+They tell themselves they are “thinking about it,” “weighing the options,” or whatever. 
+It's just procrastination parading as being "thoughtful". 
+Avoiding a decision can feel responsible because you have not yet made a mistake. 
+
+Most decisions are reversible. 
+Most are not as consequential as they feel in the moment. 
+
+But there will be moment's in life where you will need to make big ones.
+And you can use this guide to help with that.
+
+## Rule 1: Use Marc's Formula
+
+For the really big life decisions that do matter, I think the key is not certainty. 
+It is direction.
+
+A lot of things in life you really have no control over.
+Which is why I think detailed, strict, long term plans are largely useless.
+I do however believe you can have a very clear idea on the general direction you are working toward.
+
+However, a decision can put you in the right direction and still keep you stagnant.
+Which is why I think there is another component to the formula: growth.
+
+You need both, and often times you need consistency over a long period for things to work out.
+
+Let's call it Marc's Decision Formula:
+```
+Good Decision = Right Direction x Growth in that Direction
+```
+
+## Rule 2: Make Decisions for Yourself
+
+People optimise for different things in their lives.
+Some for stability, some for money etc.
+Some people are at different stages in their lives than you are.
+It would be dumb to assume everybody cares about the same things you do.
+
+The goal is not to make choices about your life that sound good at a dinner table.
+The goal is to make choices that get you to where you want to get to.
+
+## Rule 3: Keep Big Decisions Private (sometimes)
+
+You should not make a habit of explaining everything to everyone.
+
+Some plans are too personal, too multi-step, or too early to survive being publicly dissected. 
+Sometimes explaining a decision too soon weakens your confidence, not because the decision is wrong, but because other people will project their own uncertainty onto it.
+
+Your family and friends will naturally care about you. 
+They will question your decisions and you should allow trusted people to challenge your thinking.
+But you have to differentiate between useful input and noise.
+
+If someone consistently challenges your choices in a way that feels less like care and more like control, you are allowed to politely tell them to fuck off.
+
+The only person who truly needs to be convinced is you.
+
+## Rule 4: Decide on what you DON'T want
+
+Sometimes you will not have a clear vision of what you want next. 
+That is fine. 
+Clarity often starts in reverse. 
+You may not know your ideal career, but you might know you do not want work that consumes your entire life. 
+You may not know where you want to live, but you might know you do not want to stay somewhere that makes you feel stuck. 
+You may not know exactly who you want to become, but you might know the version of yourself you refuse to turn into.
+
+---
+
+Decision-making is not always about choosing your dream life in one clean move. 
+More often, it is about making a series of choices that keep you alive, keep you growing, and keep you pointed in the right direction.
+
+So when you are faced with a decision that matters, don't bother asking, "How can I gurantee this is a correct move?”
+
+You probably can’t.
+
+Ask instead:
+
+- Is this pointing me in the right direction?
+- Will this help me grow in that direction?
+
+If the answer to both is yes, that may be enough.
+
+Not perfect. 
+Not certain. 
+But enough to move.